Simple Activities

What does one give to someone with dementia to keep them busy and occupied? What is easier enough to keep the hands active?

I have tried and seen these activities to be effective for people with dementia.

If your Mother used to knit in her younger days, then try this activity:

Give the person thick brightly coloured wool to wind into a ball. If prefer you can wind it into a ball and let them unwind it. Ribbon or cord will be just as effective as wool. If you are able to knit a sample piece and leave it on the needles, give it to the person to ‘knit’ over your work or let them pull it all off. The activity is to keep the brain stimulated and the hands busy. It doesn’t matter if the work is messy or knotty, let them have a go at it.

For men who used to work with wood, on cars or in workshops: give them a box of unsorted odd nails and screws. Let them sort it for you into 2 or 3 containers. Let them know that they are doing you a great favour and that you need this to be done for them. Men need a little more encouragement than women as they need to feel that they are not doing something silly or insignificant. If the man used to work with paints let them paint. There is ‘safe’ paint on the market. Finger paint will be a great type to use. For severe dementia persons, the small items will become dangerous as it might be a choking hazard. So for those cases, try hitting a few nails, screwing down a few hinges or bolts onto a wooden panel and let them ‘fiddle’ with all the bits while sitting at a table.

Ladies who used to sew can be given something similar like for the men with a wooden panel, but in material with the ‘fiddly’ bits sewn on them. This will keep the hands and fingers busy.

There are a few more ideas that one can adapt for an adult with dementia. Just never make the person feel like they are playing with children’s ‘toys’. Always let them feel that they are important and that they are the helping you out with every task they attempt.

This article is based on my experiences with working with the dementia people. If you don’t find any of the above listed activities helpful or if you have ideas of your own, please let me know. I am always interested to learn more.



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I love the ocean. I enjoy swimming a few laps and then just lay in the water looking at the sky. Not everyone loves the ocean and not everyone can stand the cold water on their skin. The elderly are no different. Some may enjoy the cool water on their ankles and others may not. If your parent used to enjoy swimming, why not take them to beach? Let them enjoy the cool water on their skins. The benefits of ocean water will also benefit them. Note: One can mix their own salt and water at home and add a little epsom salt if you are too far from the ocean or landlocked.

Just be cautious and observant with your parent’s balance when walking on the sand. It is not a firm or solid ground and they might lose balance often and falling might result in twisted ankles or fractured hips. 

But don’t let this fear stop your elderly parent from having fun. Let them also experience the benefits of ocean water on their skins. Just be careful with mobility.

The ocean has many benefits on the human body:

The salty ocean water provides minerals that benefit the skin. Here are a few minerals found in the water: magnesium, calcium, and potassium. These all help to treat skin infections, absorb toxins in and on the body, encourages the skin to heal and works to treat eczema.

Ocean water helps to soothe itchy, flaky or dry scalp.

The ocean sounds can help to reduce stress and encourages a person to relax. There is that calm quiet and peaceful feeling oceans bring to a person.

Ocean/sea air is very beneficial for the respiratory organs. The air causes the mucus in the lungs and bronchiole tracts to loosen and this makes coughing easier and it will encourage the airways to become clear. The sea air is also free of pollution and this makes it free from harmful particles.

Ocean air improves circulation in the body.

Ocean air improves sleeping habits.

One way that the ocean can indirectly benefit an elderly person, is that you get bonding time together. You have a chance to get a change of scenery and spend time together while you sit on the beach, or in the car. You both will benefit from the outing together.

I do understand that not everyone can get to the ocean or seaside, so if that is the case for you here is what you could do to set the ‘seaside’ scene. Play some ocean sounds on a ipad, tablet, laptop or CD, sit together and let the sounds flow over you. You can enjoy a cup of tea, or a cold beverage while listening to the ocean sounds. One can even get some builder’s ‘white’ sand and put your feet into it. There are a few ways to set up your own home beach. Don’t forget sunscreen if you sit outside.

I hope you enjoyed this article.

Visiting times

Hello to all my readers

I hope that you have all had a wonderful Heritage Day this September 24th. I unfortunately wasn’t well, but on the bright side I got plenty of sleep and rest.

I hope that you all enjoyed time spent with family and that the elderly ones in your lives had a great time too. It is not always easy to participate in family gatherings and include the elderly. We can sometimes exclude them without intending to do so. They are not able to always keep up with your conversations or even participate in them.

There are ways that one can work around this problem. Let me give a few suggestions:

  • Speak slower to each other.
  • Keep sentences shorter and include some explanations if needed.
  • Try avoid slang and abbreviated words.
  • And talk one at a time.

If you were wanting to stay and visit with family for a long period and couldn’t do that because the elderly person wanted to go home, here are some ideas that might help for the next family visit:

  • Bring a favorite book on the next visit.
  • Let them watch TV while you visit with the rest of the family in the same room or next room (depends on the severity of the dementia).
  • The elderly find animals to be therapeutic and this might encourage a calm, relaxed and happy state of mind of the elderly person allowing you to have a great time visiting with your friends or family.
  • Bring their favourite hobby on a visit. For example: knitting, crochet, crosswords, colouring pens, or anything else that is travel friendly.

If the person is in the advanced stages of dementia, and you were wanting to stay late into the night, I would suggest that you don’t keep them up so late. It is very unsettling for them and the elderly sleep a lot more than younger people. I know it is frustrating to have to leave the party so early. If a family member is willing to leave earlier, let them take the elderly person with them. Maybe taking turns to stay out late will be the best answer in this situation.

Whatever plans you make in regards to visiting with friends or family, please don’t leave the elderly persons unattended and alone. Accidents can happen in a blink of an eye.

If you think of any ideas that could be added to the list of ideas on what to do to make visiting easier on the elderly, please leave me a comment and I will include it in my post. You will be named as a contributor to this post.




The elderly can become dehydrated a lot quicker than younger people. In my days working with the elderly, I noticed that the elderly don’t enjoy drinking water. I have a past article on the dementia person and their difficulty in seeing water. I know that they aren’t able to see water like us and this might be the reason that they don’t drink as must water as their bodies need. You can put a glass of water down in front of the person, and it won’t all be drunk, or only a little if the water will be drunk.

If you are concerned that your parent or elderly charge might be dehydrated these are a few signs to look out for…

  1. There might be an increase in confusion. So if the person seems to be more confused than he/she is already, it might be dehydration.
  2. The person will have a dry mouth.
  3. The eyes will become sunken.
  4. Skin will not lie flat down when a little is pinched. It will stay in the ‘ pinched’ state.
  5. The pulse will become rapid.
  6. The blood pressure will drop to a low reading.
  7. As there isn’t enough water in the body, urine output will be very little or not at all.
  8. There might be temperature, but this might not always be the case as the elderly can sometimes have no change in their temperature readings, or they can have naturally very low temperatures. ( I will do an article on the elderly and body temperatures.)

When an elderly person becomes dehydrated or when you suspect that the person is dehydrated, don’t hesitate to call the doctor. Dehydration is very serious and can result in death. In some cases the dehydrated person will be admitted to hospital where fluids will be given intravenousely. But sometimes it’s a simpler solution: just increase the daily fluid intake.


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Full of trust

During my days working with the elderly, I have learnt one very important lesson – the elderly come to trust you with their whole being.

If you offer then tea, they trust that it’s the right temperature and they won’t burn their mouths.

When you ask them to come they come to you without any hesitation.

When you offer them some medication for an ailment, they take it trusting you.

What I’ve come to love about them is that they have so much trust and love for you, it makes my heart burst with love for them.

It hurts me that there are people out there who take advantage of the elderly.

When I come with medication for one person, the others will crowd around asking for their ‘sweets’.

While I do dressings on some wounds, they all want a plaster or some gauze on their arm or leg. And while I’m busy with the dressing, someone is touching all the creams and antiseptics.

They are children at heart. Love them. Care for them.

The Box

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The memory box is a good way to keep an Alzheimer’s patient connected with their past.

 When you go through the memory box together it will bring back fond memories of all the good times you had. The boxes are a wonderful way to start conversations together and it helps to encourage creativity in the senior. They might want to start another box, but for a different memory.

It is not hard to start a memory box and it is not expensive in anyway. All you need is a box that is covered in a nice paper or a bin that will hold all the memories. The memory box can be stored anywhere that is suitable to both of you, on a bedside table, in the lounge or on a chair next to the senior’s favourite TV spot in the lounge. There is no wrong place to put the box.

What keepsakes to collect for the memory box? Well, here are a few ideas I could think of and you can add to the list:

  • Try collect personal items as they have a history.
  • Collect items that are significant to the senior.
  • Textured items work well.
  • The items should reflect on the history of the senior’s life.
  • And I wouldn’t recommend collecting items that have negative memories.

Children’s toys, a keychain, a photo, a menu from a favourite restaurant, a letter, dried flowers, grandchildren’s artwork, or a lock from first child’s hair; just to mention a few. There is no limit as to what can be put into the memory box.